Another year has almost passed and it’s nearly that time to sit around the tree, open gifts and wish each other a merry Christmas.
But for some of us, the ‘merry’ part may have become a little less merry and a little more ‘meh’.
I can happily report that this year has been a vast improvement when compared to last year (when my mood dropped to below freezing point and I felt the weight of the world descend on me in what can only be described as a post seasonal merriment meltdown).
Christmas for many is one big happy dance around the tree, presents and food for all, family gatherings and cracker-popping madness.
For others (i.e, me) it is a time that vividly reminds of what is here no longer.
For the last few years it has played out as time where I wake up happy, but by lunch time (when I am farewelling my children to their father’s and am left alone with an empty bottomed tree and a strong impulse to reach for the tequila), it can be a little dissatisfactory.
Please don’t get me wrong, I am extremely grateful for the things I do still have; the ability to give gifts, the family that IS still here, the wifi that lets me blast Mariah Carey in all her 90’s goodness for the 10 days leading up to Christmas, and even maybe a couple of hours on the actual day, and of course the ever excellent James.
But yes, there is a sense of loss.
It is so important to be aware of those that do not treasure this day. It is not to imply that we need to enable the humbug, merely that we embrace an attitude of awareness and grace.
I need to look after myself. You need to look after YOURSELF. I need to lessen my expectations on what this day SHOULD be. I need to be gentle with myself, and ask for timeout to grieve what needs to be grieved.
I am looking for new ways to show grace, gratitude and gentleness.
To live in well-being is an indispensable practice.
Eat the good food, drink some wine, breathe. Ask for help.
ASK FOR HELP.
Be a good friend. Respect those that are happy, and respect those who are in tatters.
Be giving, but allow yourself to receive.
If all else is failing, ask yourself..
What would Mariah do?